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Today on our trip back home, I realized that some laws of physics can be applied not only to physical objects, but also to people and life in general. The law of inertia stood out to me the most.

Remember what it says? “An object at rest will remain at rest and an object in motion will remain in motion unless acted on by an external force” (thank you, google).

Life’s version is a little bit different though.

In life, the object is you. Think of yourself as a little ball. Your birth sets you in motion and you go from infancy to childhood to adolescence to adulthood, and hopefully, to old age. You, as the ball, need to pass through all of these important developmental milestones in order to mature as a human being. You gain experiences in the process, some of which can be unpleasant.

Events that you experience are the external forces that act on you. Some push you forward, others pull you backwards. Some might be strong enough to “stop” you. These could be tragic events such as falling terminally ill or losing a loved one. Now when you do stop, you rest. That isn’t so bad because you might need it. For example, when you lose someone dear to you, you have to stop to grieve so that you can accept and come to terms with that loss.

Unfortunately, we can’t forget that the law of inertia states that you will remain at rest unless an external force acts on you. I think that this is the part that most people struggle with. Getting back in motion can be difficult. It takes a considerable amount of energy to start over again. Sometimes, even the thought of starting over can be too taxing.

This is also where life strays a bit from the law of inertia. We know that an external force must act on you in order for you to move. In life, that force can come from within. You don’t always have to wait for something to put you back on track because you can do it yourself. We have the ability to rise up when we fall down. This is what I like about the resilience of human beings. Again, it’s also the part where you might struggle the most, but don’t give up.

The trick to life is to keep moving. Avoid stagnation. You’ll die faster when you stop.

Am I making any sense?

It’s 2014, let’s all keep that ball rolling. Happy new year everyone!

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I was killing time by exploring the big blue sea of the internet (aka Tumblr), when I saw a post that said, “if you could unmeet a person, would you?”

I found myself asking whether I knew anyone who should be removed from my life, perhaps someone who has hurt me badly enough that I would want to go back in time and run like hell in the opposite direction (or maybe use a selective mind eraser a la Men in Black and delete that person from my memory forever).

Well, my answer is no, I would never unmeet anyone. There is no one I can think of who deserves that. Even if such a person did exist, my answer would still be no.

 

The Doctor

 

The Doctor said, “in nine hundred years of times and space… I’ve never met anybody who wasn’t important before.” Maybe I’m naive for believing this, but I think all people come into our lives for a reason. It doesn’t matter whether they become an integral part of our lives or whether we meet them only once.

The point is that each person has a role to play in our lives. He or she could be a game changer or a simple passerby. He or she could lift you up or pull you down, love you or hate you, help you or hurt you. The roles may be different, but the people you meet all have one thing in common, and that is to teach you something.

 

 

Mostly they teach you about yourself (and they do this more often than you realize). They ask questions. They push buttons. They catch you off-guard. They challenge you. They make you feel; they make your heart ache. They make you do things you didn’t think you were capable of doing. They are your mirrors; they show you your strengths and weaknesses, and help you understand how you can become a better person. You just have to be willing to learn.

Of course let’s not forget how some people can be downright cruel. They will do nothing but test your limits and try to crush you; they will stretch you until your breaking point. It can be difficult to understand how their presence in your life can contribute anything positive, but that’s where the challenge lies.

At the very least, try and get something out of all that suffering you did by learning from that experience. Without these people to shake things up- without them to make you risk the quiet order you’ve built for yourself, you would never know otherwise. And not knowing otherwise will prevent you from appreciating what you have and don’t have.

 

Don't waste your energy

 

It’s human to have regrets, but dwelling on them will drain you and leave you feeling every bit the victim. How you deal with them is your choice and no one else’s. There is no use in wasting your energy wishing to unmeet anyone. Carry on and you will be a stronger person. Someday you might even thank that person for what they did to you.

(Sidenote: just as other people teach us about life and ourselves, we also do the same for them with every action we take. So let’s be mindful of the things we do and how we treat others too.

Sidenote 2: The source of the Doctor Who is image from the big blue sea called tumblr)

 

Last night, I went to the wake of my brother’s best friend.

He died at 23 due to pancreatitis.  Most of you know it as “bangungot.”  I couldn’t believe it.  The news was unreal.

I’m sad beyond words.

He and my brother have been friends since kindergarten. He’s really close to our family and was like a second son to my mom and dad.  Only 23.  23 is too young to die.

Death has always been so sneaky.  He comes into your home when you least expect him, undetected.  He steals lives right from under your nose, snatching people away while they’re sleeping.

I have gotten used to letting go of people

Again and again.

 

They stay inside my heart for awhile

But most of them are passersby.

 

I know they will leave inevitably

So I always say my goodbyes quietly

even before they make up their minds

even before they pack up and go.

 

When they’re gone

I try not to search the gaps

and hollow spaces they once occupied

I try not to feel the small indentations

caused by every word

and every touch

 

But the mind is a masochist–

It goes back again and again.

It keeps probing

Unable to resist asking

the whys

and the what ifs

that will never be answered.